I’m not thinking about war in Iraq or Afghanistan, or even Vietnam or Korea or WWII. This song, every time I hear it, makes me think about the internal skirmishes we have between flesh and spirit, the battle for control or power or authority in relationships.
“What leads to strife (discord and feuds) and how do conflicts (quarrels and fightings) originate among you? Do they not arise from your sensual desires that are ever warring in your bodily members?”James 4:1 The Amplified Bible
“You are jealous and covet [what others have] and your desires go unfulfilled: [so] you become murderers. [To hate is to murder as far as your hearts are concerned.] you burn with envy and anger and are not able to obtain [the gratification, the contentment, and the happiness that you seek], so you fight and war…”
Too often we act like cranky toddlers in need of a nap, striking out at those around us in a fit of rage. In an attempt to soothe us, people hand us toys and snacks and sippy cups, but nothing satisfies, and pretty soon our decibel level reaches ear-shattering pitch. Eventually, we collapse in exhaustion, but not before we’ve made everyone around us miserable.
Our toys get bigger – boats and motorcycles and ridiculously expensive shoes. Our snacks might become a pattern of binging, or relying on some substance to settle us down. Our sippy cups aren’t full of apple juice anymore, they’ve become one too many apple martinis. Demands to be picked up or put down become demands to move to a new state or to get a new job. Our temper tantrums turn into abuse and destructive behavior. And still, we just can’t find the peace we crave.
Trace that point of contention to its root. What is it you’re REALLY after? Who is it you’re really fighting?
Before you pitch a fit, make a fool of yourself, and expose your immaturity again, go somewhere quiet and ask God about it. The One who made you knows exactly how to satisfy your weary soul.