All Tears Are Not Created Equal

Tears. They leak out when we cut onions or get dirt in our eyes. They fall profusely when we’re sad and stricken by grief, moved with compassion and love, or angry and hurt.

photo by *TreMichLan* via PhotoRee

All tears seem to be made of the same stuff, but I’m convinced that’s not the case. I cried twice last week. Once over a traumatic scene in a book and once because I was angry and frustrated and severely premenstrual.

I’m convinced those angry, frustrated tears are toxic. Why? Because when I popped my contacts in the next day it was like looking through etched glass. I’ve worn contacts for almost 30 years, and I’ve experienced this phenomenon more than once. Tears shed in anger (during a fight with a spouse or child, for instance) are contact killers. I still haven’t found out exactly what is in those tears that reacts with my lenses, but whatever it is, it’s potent.

photo by TimOve via PhotoRee

Of the three types of tears produced by our lacrimal glands, emotion-generated tears are believed to flush out excess hormones produced by stress, as well as releasing endorphin-type chemicals. Maybe that’s why women are more prone to bouts of tears during certain times of the month… we need to dump some excess hormones from the system!

University of Minnesota biochemist and research scientist Dr. William Frey, PhD, has suggested resisting the urge to cry may result in a build-up of toxins that harm other organs instead of being rinsed harmlessly away. 

The sorrow which has no vent in tears may make other organs weep. 
~Henry Maudsley, pioneering British psychiatrist (1835-1918)

“Having a good cry” may well be the healthiest way to respond to stress. Likewise, shutting down that natural reaction out of fear or shame could contribute to or exacerbate, other health problems. It makes me wonder if our distaste for the shedding of tears, especially in public, (“big girls/boys don’t cry,” “don’t be a crybaby,” etc.) is partially to blame for some of our modern health issues.  

8 thoughts on “All Tears Are Not Created Equal

  1. Jill Kemerer says:

    I agree. Sometimes a good cry is therapeutic. And what is it with our eyes? Tears can soothe or burn. Huh!

  2. Unknown says:

    Niki,
    Very nicely put. I agree with the idea. Studies show stress is harmful to your body and if crying releases and relieves stress, it should follow that crying = less stress= better health.
    So, I say let it flow 🙂

  3. Jeanette Levellie says:

    You are so cool; I never read a post on tears until today, and I've been blogging over 2 years. These are excellent thoughts!

    I love to see a man cry. It shows he has a tender heart.

  4. Niki Turner says:

    @Jennifer Shirk
    Wow, I didn't even make that connection! And the less women are "allowed" to cry, the more our incidence of heart disease goes up. Interesting hypothesis!

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